Well Ramadan is nearing towards it’s end, Eid ul Fitr is around the corner, and the A-level results day is taking place tomorrow morning. Here’s me starting off really boring, by stating the obvious. Anyways. Many people seem very stressed about it, and the impression I get is that some may feel as though it’s the end of the world for them. I’ll be honest with you, I feel sorry for these types of people. Because this reflects not only the great level of importance they give to things such as results day, it also shows how incapable they potentially will be, in regards to handling other issues in life.
What I’m saying is this that although things regarding your studies and career are not trivial matters, just the fact that you can give something like this so much importance, to the point where it becomes life and death, I wouldn’t be surprised to hear you also giving really trivial things great importance, things such as who said what about you, and therefore allow yourself to be absorbed by such silly and unimportant things.
The important thing to first build and understand is Qadar (the decree of Allah سبحانه و تعالى). The truth is that your grades are already predestined anyways, and no matter you may do, nothing can change that. Allow me to outline this to you, yes you study and you revise, this is what you use your free will for, but on the day of the exam, what control do you have over your own health? Who’s to say that your nerves will not get the better of you? That your examiner wont be harsh? That the grade boundaries will be extremely high? Or that the mark schemes have completely changed? My point is this that, you actually have no control over how good your grades will be, as there are many external factors that aren’t in your capacity to change. See the thing is this that, the results of anything are never in our hands to begin with, the thing we have control over, is the free will to act upon doing correct actions as well as the incorrect actions. So is it that you spent enough time towards your studies? This is the matter in all cases. The outcome of all events was never yours to decide anyway. Here’s a beautiful quote from the one I refer to as the love of my life.
“No amount of guilt can change the past, and no amount of worrying can change the future. Go easy on yourself, for the outcome of all affairs is determined by Allah’s decree. If something is meant to go elsewhere, it will never come your way, but if it is yours by destiny, from it you cannot flee.”- Umar bin Al- Khattab (رضي الله عنه).
My outlook on this is, if I don’t do well, then Alhamdulillah, Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) will be leading me to a different path, and is therefore guiding me towards something that will be better for me, and if I do well, then Alhamdulillah to that too, this is the path that I should continue to go down towards.
I think it’s imperative that we don’t put all our eggs in one basket, in that our options should not be so limited to one desirable career option, or to a career only option, there is subhanAllah so much for us to do. But I think to feel that you have alot to do in life, your purpose in life has to be fixed as well as clearly understood by yourself, and it has to be the purpose that never dies regardless of the situation you may fall in to.
When I failed my first year of college, it definitely wasn’t a nice experience, but after a while I was so grateful I failed. Because the truth is I took lessons from my failure, and I came to understand what it is I truly should be living for. Which isn’t what it used to be, i.e. a successful career. A point to raise about this, is that my dear brothers and sisters, your plans wont necessarily go your way, regardless of how hard you may try. As Umar (رضي الله عنه) quite rightfully said, the outcome of all affairs is not determined by us, but by God. And the outcome you take to be the negative one will happen for a reason, so that you may take lessons from it, and see the light, which may just be that your career or education is not the only way forward towards a better future. Allah (سبحانه و تعالى) knows which path will lead towards a better future, and this will be different and particular to each individual.
If you really believe that the ideals of a better future our societies push on to us, (societies being the culture of the west, our traditional cultures, our parents, siblings, teachers, friends etc), do you not for once pause for a moment to think and ask yourself, that these ideals are man made, and man is prone to human error, so surely what comes from man, I can’t definitely use as my guide to life? But woe to us for being incredibly stupid by allowing ourselves to follow such hollow ideals.
My dear brothers and sisters, there is much more to life than results day. It’s about time we don’t make our education and career paths into our end point in life. Know that what ever we do in life, is all a means to get towards the real end, which we understand to be the afterlife. So if having good A- Level results is good for the sake of your deen and afterlife, then inshAllah you’ll do well. But if not, the road to the real end wont be closed, until you die.
This is Apple sharing a reminder for the week.
As salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu~